Some events came into play today that changed the way I wanted to announce this, but I promised a blog post last night, so I better live up to it! I know some of you said you are on the edge of your seat...and I don't want you to fall off...especially because it's not what you're thinking!
I am working on opening a local, domestic adoption agency here in Northwest Arkansas. I have the full backing of the state agency licensing representative and hope to appear before the board to receive licensing in November.
We are currently in need of a Web designer and funding, so if you're interested, please contact me!
Monday, September 23, 2013
Invalids Home #4: Take a look
Take a trip into Invalids Home #4 near St. Petersburg. It's one of the "better" orphanages.
Invalid home....invalid...in-valid.
I challenge you to watch this video.
http://mediacenter.dw.de/english/video/item/851315/Russia_Orphanages_on_Trial/
The video speaks for itself, so I'm not going to say a lot.
Pray for Vitaly and the Moyers. God bless Valery Panyushkin, the German and Russian volunteers, and Svetlana Brodovikova.
As for Pavel Astakhov...with all due respect Sir, what is long overdue is for your own children to grow up in Russia. It is not appropriate for your own wife and children to live in France while you tell the world that Russia is the best place for these orphaned children.
Invalid home....invalid...in-valid.
I challenge you to watch this video.
http://mediacenter.dw.de/english/video/item/851315/Russia_Orphanages_on_Trial/
The video speaks for itself, so I'm not going to say a lot.
Pray for Vitaly and the Moyers. God bless Valery Panyushkin, the German and Russian volunteers, and Svetlana Brodovikova.
As for Pavel Astakhov...with all due respect Sir, what is long overdue is for your own children to grow up in Russia. It is not appropriate for your own wife and children to live in France while you tell the world that Russia is the best place for these orphaned children.
Sunday, September 22, 2013
Looking Back & Moving Forward: Stay Tuned
If you know me or have even followed my blog and Polina's adoption at all, you know that this experiences has changed me...deep to my core.
I believe our family's adoption story is very unique. I say that not because we were caught in the ban - there were nearly 50 other families who experienced that. However, I believe we experienced it a bit differently than the others. I never could have imagined what would come of my "Death Would Be Better" blog. I was woken around 3 o'clock the next morning with calls from all around the United States and Russia. I was caught off-guard, didn't understand what was going on and couldn't figure out how these people from the media and charities had gotten my phone number. A man from Texas just kept telling me someone in Moscow gave it to him after he read my blog. It was then I logged-in to see I had tens-of-thousands of blog hits and hundreds of comments. It wasn't until I answered a call from the ABC Moscow Correspondent, Kirit Radia, that I learned my blog had been translated into Russian and published on a very popular news blog in that country.
I didn't have much time to process what was going on before I found myself in the ABC and CNN news studios and fielding phone calls for interviews from The Wall Street Journal, Radio Free Europe, and numerous outlets I can't even remember. All I knew was that it wasn't my style to sit back and leave things in other people's hands. I needed to fight for my daughter, and I was willing to put our family out there as a "face" to the story.
I don't remember much about January. I remember it was a roller-coaster. I was flying high on hope and then something would happen to pop my balloon and I would cry myself a puddle of tears. And then....repeat. I tried to keep a strong front out there....you know...don't let the enemy smell out your fear kinda thing.
I remember the Russian people rallied around our family and fought for our little girl by name. They carried her picture in their protests against the Magnitsky law. And I knew then that if these people I'd never met could show so much courage and tenacity in the face of repression, I could too. I found resolve there. I was going back to fight for my daughter if they weren't going to let me take her. My parents feared for my safety and I quietly made necessary, unspeakable arrangements at home just in case my return didn't go so well. I was backed by the vitality of the Russian people, and there was a song on repeat in my head that told me I wasn't alone.
"I know Who goes before me, He is a friend of mine. The God of Angel armies, is always on my side..."
Through the passing of the next few weeks, we knew families were able to bring their children home, and we believed we would too. We purchased airline tickets and planned for my mother to stay with my son. We were in contact with our comrades in Russia who arranged lodging and escort transportation.
While on our trip, we did multiple media interviews with in-country American and Russian news outlets. We met people who had contacted us through our blog and wanted to help in different ways. We offered to pass on the help we were receiving to other families who were having struggles getting their children home. Of course we were excited to bring Polina home and introduce her to her extended family, but in truth, there was great heartache involved in leaving Russia. We could have left earlier than we did, but there were still people to meet, visit, and say goodbye to. It was gut-wrenching knowing that it would be a long, long time before we would see them again...if ever.
There continues to be mental and emotional anguish revolving around the orphans that are stuck.
It has been almost 8 months since we said goodbye. Let me tell you, it's been a whirlwind. I feel like I've lived in a fog for most of it. Things were NOTHING like I imagined when we came home. It has been challenging. Helping Polina assimilate has been complex. Building a cohesive family unit has been complicated. Support systems diminished and others formed in their absence. We've learned who our true friends are, and the fakes have been revealed. Just like January, there have been highs (I've shared here) and there have been lows (I'm saving for the appropriate time.) I have learned so many lessons about myself, parenting, adoption, the world and the people in it. I've learned about priorities, values, and taking steps...no, leaps...of faith. Most importantly, I've found purpose I didn't know I had. I still don't know exactly where it's going to lead. But I do know I'm going to follow it.
Tomorrow, I will announce part one of that purpose and how you can help. Stay tuned!
I believe our family's adoption story is very unique. I say that not because we were caught in the ban - there were nearly 50 other families who experienced that. However, I believe we experienced it a bit differently than the others. I never could have imagined what would come of my "Death Would Be Better" blog. I was woken around 3 o'clock the next morning with calls from all around the United States and Russia. I was caught off-guard, didn't understand what was going on and couldn't figure out how these people from the media and charities had gotten my phone number. A man from Texas just kept telling me someone in Moscow gave it to him after he read my blog. It was then I logged-in to see I had tens-of-thousands of blog hits and hundreds of comments. It wasn't until I answered a call from the ABC Moscow Correspondent, Kirit Radia, that I learned my blog had been translated into Russian and published on a very popular news blog in that country.
I didn't have much time to process what was going on before I found myself in the ABC and CNN news studios and fielding phone calls for interviews from The Wall Street Journal, Radio Free Europe, and numerous outlets I can't even remember. All I knew was that it wasn't my style to sit back and leave things in other people's hands. I needed to fight for my daughter, and I was willing to put our family out there as a "face" to the story.
I don't remember much about January. I remember it was a roller-coaster. I was flying high on hope and then something would happen to pop my balloon and I would cry myself a puddle of tears. And then....repeat. I tried to keep a strong front out there....you know...don't let the enemy smell out your fear kinda thing.
I remember the Russian people rallied around our family and fought for our little girl by name. They carried her picture in their protests against the Magnitsky law. And I knew then that if these people I'd never met could show so much courage and tenacity in the face of repression, I could too. I found resolve there. I was going back to fight for my daughter if they weren't going to let me take her. My parents feared for my safety and I quietly made necessary, unspeakable arrangements at home just in case my return didn't go so well. I was backed by the vitality of the Russian people, and there was a song on repeat in my head that told me I wasn't alone.
"I know Who goes before me, He is a friend of mine. The God of Angel armies, is always on my side..."
Through the passing of the next few weeks, we knew families were able to bring their children home, and we believed we would too. We purchased airline tickets and planned for my mother to stay with my son. We were in contact with our comrades in Russia who arranged lodging and escort transportation.
While on our trip, we did multiple media interviews with in-country American and Russian news outlets. We met people who had contacted us through our blog and wanted to help in different ways. We offered to pass on the help we were receiving to other families who were having struggles getting their children home. Of course we were excited to bring Polina home and introduce her to her extended family, but in truth, there was great heartache involved in leaving Russia. We could have left earlier than we did, but there were still people to meet, visit, and say goodbye to. It was gut-wrenching knowing that it would be a long, long time before we would see them again...if ever.
There continues to be mental and emotional anguish revolving around the orphans that are stuck.
It has been almost 8 months since we said goodbye. Let me tell you, it's been a whirlwind. I feel like I've lived in a fog for most of it. Things were NOTHING like I imagined when we came home. It has been challenging. Helping Polina assimilate has been complex. Building a cohesive family unit has been complicated. Support systems diminished and others formed in their absence. We've learned who our true friends are, and the fakes have been revealed. Just like January, there have been highs (I've shared here) and there have been lows (I'm saving for the appropriate time.) I have learned so many lessons about myself, parenting, adoption, the world and the people in it. I've learned about priorities, values, and taking steps...no, leaps...of faith. Most importantly, I've found purpose I didn't know I had. I still don't know exactly where it's going to lead. But I do know I'm going to follow it.
Tomorrow, I will announce part one of that purpose and how you can help. Stay tuned!
Thursday, September 12, 2013
In Response to President Putin: An Open Letter to the New York Times and the American People
I have a degree in journalism. I understand timeliness and the need to print Putin’s letter before you got “scooped.” But the choice of graphic to put with it lacked discernment. On the day of remembrance of the greatest terrorist attack on American soil, you chose to join in on the propaganda of fear.
Where’s your patriotism?
To my fellow Americans, I know you’re worried. I know you don’t want a war. None of us want to see the loss of innocent life. But this letter isn’t about whether we want war or not, this letter is about finding discernment in what you hear and read.
I first saw Putin’s letter in the NYT when a friend posted on Facebook saying he never thought he’d so strongly agree with Putin. At first read, if you haven’t followed international news and aren’t well-versed in what goes on behind the scenes, Putin’s letter seems valid. If you’ll bear with me, I’ll break it down and tell you why it is not and why I believe it is a move in a fear campaign from a man who knows American’s aren’t getting what they need from their own leadership. Putin is using this situation to advance himself and his agenda. But I know that American’s are smart enough not to let Putin play us for dummies!
On Sept. 11, Putin wants to place fear in America about terrorism. He wants to break down our resolve and pit us against each other. Don’t let him do it.
Putin begins his letter telling us that he finds it important to speak to the American people at a time of insufficient communication. He knows we have free media, and is taking advantage of it at an opportune time! I will revisit this at the end of my explanation.
He goes on to passive-aggressively tell us that we could be the reason the United Nations collapses. He explains that America consented to the veto by Security Council permanent members. What he doesn’t tell you is that he is taking, and has taken, full advantage of that position.
After the council fell short of reaching an agreement on a British-proposed resolution (yes, British, not American), State Department deputy spokeswoman Marie Harf told reporters “...what we’ve seen, not just today, not just last week, but over the course of many months, is the Russians at every move doing things to fail to hold the Syrian regime accountable.”
It is Russia which is repeatedly taking advantage of its permanent membership in the UN that could cause it to crumble.
Putin goes on: "A strike would increase violence and unleash a new wave of terrorism. It could undermine multilateral efforts to resolve the Iranian nuclear problem ..."
What you need to know about this is that on Friday, Putin will offer to supply Iran with five S-300 air defense missile systems as well as build a second reactor at the Bushehr nuclear plant.
So, tell me, who is it that is undermining the efforts to resolve the nuclear problem?
He continues: "It could throw the entire system of international law and order out of balance."
More hypocrisy! According to an article written by the New York Times in April 2013, "The goal (of the UN Arms Treaty) is to curb the sale of weapons that kill tens of thousands of people every year — by, for example, making it harder for Russia to argue that its arms deals with Syria are legal under international law."
You must know that Russia has made over $4 billion on weapons sales to Syria.
Putin says: "Syria is not witnessing a battle for democracy ..."
No. No, it isn’t. It’s the Russian people who are battling for democracy. However, when Putin returned to the presidency a year ago, he very aggressively stamped out the protest movement and has worked incessantly to silence his opposition. There are falsifications in every vote by the people and in the Duma. Anyone who poses a serious threat to his regime is mysteriously killed or thrown in prison by a corrupt system on bogus charges. Democracy in America means freedom of speech and of the press. Putin has taken advantage of our democracy to try and wrap us up in his propaganda. What Russia has is not a democracy.
Putin closes with what really makes my blood boil most. It should yours too. He says: “We are all different, but when we ask for the Lord’s blessings, we must not forget that God created us equal.”
I’m sorry, but when orphans, especially disabled ones, are treated the way they are in the country he governs, he doesn’t get to speak to equality. When homosexuality is outlawed and crimes against a people are ignored and their homes searched just for suspicion, he doesn’t get to speak to equality. When immigrant workers are placed in city camps, he doesn’t get to talk about equality of God’s creation.
The letter does make some good points. Coming from David Cameron, Francois Hollande or even Xi Jinping it would be deserving of credit. From Putin, it is not. It is hypocrisy and propaganda. He doesn't get to say God created us all equal when orphans, disabled and homosexual people in his country are treated the way they are.
Let me close with this. Putin can not be taken seriously or trusted when his primary concern is his existential fear that if Al-Assad loses to his opposition, it means Putin and his repressive system will also, one day sooner than later, lose to his. Putin’s allies are Syria and Iran. That should speak enough for itself.
Vladimir Putin is not a statesman as he would like us to believe. He is a modern-day czar. Don’t let him pull the wool over your eyes.
(You can read Putin's letter at: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/12/opinion/putin-plea-for-caution-from-russia-on-syria.html?_r=0 )
Friday, September 6, 2013
Friends, Family, Disneyland, and the BEACH!!!
At the end of May, Polina and I drove over 1500 miles across the country to visit my family and friends in California. What a trip it was to meet other families who have children with Spina Bifida and have prayed for us, to visit the beach and go to Disneyland. We had a blast!
On the way, we we were privileged to stay overnight with a Russian family in Albuquerque, New Mexico. We had breakfast at Tim's Place - the only restaurant in the world owned by someone with Down's Syndrome. It was really awesome! Tim is a great guy and his family a great model of what kids with "disabilities" can do when they grow up in a supportive family!
On our first day, we went and met some new friends that had followed our adoption journey through the internet and supported us with prayer and also financially. It was so great to meet them in person and I know they will be lifetime friends! I learned so much from the mom's and the kiddos!
The beach was a BLAST! It was a great day weather-wise and the waves were huge! Polina loved the water and the sand. Granny Kay, Aunt Katie and Aunt Katy went with us. It was so much fun!
On the way, we we were privileged to stay overnight with a Russian family in Albuquerque, New Mexico. We had breakfast at Tim's Place - the only restaurant in the world owned by someone with Down's Syndrome. It was really awesome! Tim is a great guy and his family a great model of what kids with "disabilities" can do when they grow up in a supportive family!
On our first day, we went and met some new friends that had followed our adoption journey through the internet and supported us with prayer and also financially. It was so great to meet them in person and I know they will be lifetime friends! I learned so much from the mom's and the kiddos!
The beach was a BLAST! It was a great day weather-wise and the waves were huge! Polina loved the water and the sand. Granny Kay, Aunt Katie and Aunt Katy went with us. It was so much fun!
And then there was Disneyland! Polina's favorite princess was Cinderella. I'm pretty sure Polina was Cinderella's favorite too! As we walked in, Cinderella said, "Oh, look at this princess in her carriage." It was then that I began fighting tears! Polina told Cinderella how she had come from the orphanage in Russia and now she had a family. What was Cinderella's response...."Oh, so all your dreams have come true!" And then..well...I couldn't hold the tears back anymore! Cinderella stopped the line and escorted Polina to meet Ariel and Aurora and spent a lot of time with her. It was the first thing we did during the day and it would have been worth the time and expense if it was the only thing we did all day. The pictures tell the story!
Oh, and in the mornings, Polina had dance parties with her Baba!
It was all great fun and we can't wait to go back again!
Random Summer Fun Photos
| We went to the park and took some fun pictures |
| Last Day of School Celebration May 2013 |
| It was a BLAST out on the lake with my best friend's family! |
| It was a fun day of learning at the Science Museum of Oklahoma |
| I learned how loud race cars are when I went to watch my Papa Bill's Teams in Missouri |
| We got a dog, went hiking, celebrated Independence Day, got hair cuts, played at the park and went to birthday parties |
| I visited special people including my Great Grandma and Great Aunt and special Prayer Warrior |
Wednesday, September 4, 2013
I Have a Dream for the Russian People
It's been over two months since I've published on this blog. Not because I don't have something to say, but because I've allowed the fear of those who love me to keep me from publishing what I've written.
But I'm sitting her tonight with tears streaming down my face - literally heartbroken for a nation of people that live in my heart. I'm encouraged by a number of quotes from Martin Luther King, Jr. as the 50th anniversary of his "I have a Dream" speech has recently passed. I wish I could be so eloquent as to write such a memorable, touching, moving and eloquent speech. Instead, I'll quote him throughout this blog.
King said, "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter."
And so, I'm breaking my silence tonight.
I have a dream that the voice of the people of Russia will be heard.
Many of my friends, near and dear to my heart, will go to the polls in Russia on Sunday and will cast their vote for a man who stands for freedom - Alexei Navalny for Moscow Mayor.
A little background:
Best know for his political activism and blogging, Navalny is a well-educated lawyer who belongs to the Russian Opposition Coordination Council and the Fund for Fighting Corruption. He was named "Person of the Year 2009" by Russian business newspaper Vedomosti. In 2011, the BBC described Navalny as "arguably the only major opposition figure to emerge in Russia in the past five years." In 2012, he was the only Russian to make Time magazine's 2012 list of the world's 100 most influential people. But here's the "title" that sums it up. In 2012, The Wall Street Journal described Navalny as "the man Vladimir Putin fears most."
What happens to people that Vladimir Putin fears? I have one name for you - Sergei Magnitsky. If you have followed our adoption story or adoption in general, this should ring a bell. It was the Magnitsky Act signed by President Obama that led to Putin shutting down American adoptions. The Cliff Notes version is this:
Magnistky was a Russian lawyer, accountant and auditor who alleged there had been a large-scale theft from the Russian state sanctioned and carried out by Russian officials. He was therefore arrested and thrown in prison where he died 7 days prior to being released without trial. Because of the believed torture and foul-play involved in his death, America passed human rights sanctions against the Russian Government officials involved. Those sanctions are known as the Magnistky Act.
It should come as no surprise then, that Navalny was accused by the Russian Government in three instances of embezzlement and fraud, or that he was found guilty of a crime that my Russian friends say "there is no way he could have committed." He is a political prisoner.
And now, in a political move to "save face" with the civilized world and keep the 2014 Olympics in Sochi, the Russian Government has set Navalny free for two months to allow him to participate in the elections. However, their true purpose in this is to claim their "democracy" and show those still under the trance of the government-run media that Navalny is worth nothing and opposition can not win. All of my Russian friends tell me the results will be falsified and we can know that the results are not true.
Another King quote. "Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity."
Unfortunately, there are millions of Russians and Americans that fall under that label! Americans are that way because they choose to be. Many Russians are that way because they lived through the Soviet era, know that it is better now than it was, and they aren't willing too "shake the boat" even though better isn't good enough. And there's the fact that the only media the poor and rural get is government-run propaganda.
King said, "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."
There is no yard stick to measure Navalny. He has stood up for a nation of people who want and deserve better. They want and deserve true democracy, not the dictatored democracy they currently have. Yes, I made that word up.
I commend you Navalny.
As for me. Our adoption is completed. Our daughter is home with us where she belongs. I could take the safe route and stop talking and stop caring about this, but these people are my friends! King said, "In the end, we will not remember the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." I will not be silent and stand by and just watch as my friends go through this trying time.
I speak up for my friends - those I've met and had meals with, those I've spoken with via Skype or Facebook, and those who simply have followed our adoption story and supported us and the tens of thousands of Russian orphans. For my Russian friends who want freedom, I leave you with this quote from Dr. King:
"Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so, we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can't ride you unless your back is bent."
If you are an American, or live in another truly democratic country, I beg of you. Don't take your freedom for granted. Vote. Let your voice be heard. For if you don't, we might end up in just the situation my friends are in!
But I'm sitting her tonight with tears streaming down my face - literally heartbroken for a nation of people that live in my heart. I'm encouraged by a number of quotes from Martin Luther King, Jr. as the 50th anniversary of his "I have a Dream" speech has recently passed. I wish I could be so eloquent as to write such a memorable, touching, moving and eloquent speech. Instead, I'll quote him throughout this blog.
King said, "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter."
And so, I'm breaking my silence tonight.
I have a dream that the voice of the people of Russia will be heard.
Many of my friends, near and dear to my heart, will go to the polls in Russia on Sunday and will cast their vote for a man who stands for freedom - Alexei Navalny for Moscow Mayor.
A little background:
Best know for his political activism and blogging, Navalny is a well-educated lawyer who belongs to the Russian Opposition Coordination Council and the Fund for Fighting Corruption. He was named "Person of the Year 2009" by Russian business newspaper Vedomosti. In 2011, the BBC described Navalny as "arguably the only major opposition figure to emerge in Russia in the past five years." In 2012, he was the only Russian to make Time magazine's 2012 list of the world's 100 most influential people. But here's the "title" that sums it up. In 2012, The Wall Street Journal described Navalny as "the man Vladimir Putin fears most."
What happens to people that Vladimir Putin fears? I have one name for you - Sergei Magnitsky. If you have followed our adoption story or adoption in general, this should ring a bell. It was the Magnitsky Act signed by President Obama that led to Putin shutting down American adoptions. The Cliff Notes version is this:
Magnistky was a Russian lawyer, accountant and auditor who alleged there had been a large-scale theft from the Russian state sanctioned and carried out by Russian officials. He was therefore arrested and thrown in prison where he died 7 days prior to being released without trial. Because of the believed torture and foul-play involved in his death, America passed human rights sanctions against the Russian Government officials involved. Those sanctions are known as the Magnistky Act.
It should come as no surprise then, that Navalny was accused by the Russian Government in three instances of embezzlement and fraud, or that he was found guilty of a crime that my Russian friends say "there is no way he could have committed." He is a political prisoner.
And now, in a political move to "save face" with the civilized world and keep the 2014 Olympics in Sochi, the Russian Government has set Navalny free for two months to allow him to participate in the elections. However, their true purpose in this is to claim their "democracy" and show those still under the trance of the government-run media that Navalny is worth nothing and opposition can not win. All of my Russian friends tell me the results will be falsified and we can know that the results are not true.
Another King quote. "Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity."
Unfortunately, there are millions of Russians and Americans that fall under that label! Americans are that way because they choose to be. Many Russians are that way because they lived through the Soviet era, know that it is better now than it was, and they aren't willing too "shake the boat" even though better isn't good enough. And there's the fact that the only media the poor and rural get is government-run propaganda.
King said, "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."
There is no yard stick to measure Navalny. He has stood up for a nation of people who want and deserve better. They want and deserve true democracy, not the dictatored democracy they currently have. Yes, I made that word up.
I commend you Navalny.
As for me. Our adoption is completed. Our daughter is home with us where she belongs. I could take the safe route and stop talking and stop caring about this, but these people are my friends! King said, "In the end, we will not remember the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." I will not be silent and stand by and just watch as my friends go through this trying time.
I speak up for my friends - those I've met and had meals with, those I've spoken with via Skype or Facebook, and those who simply have followed our adoption story and supported us and the tens of thousands of Russian orphans. For my Russian friends who want freedom, I leave you with this quote from Dr. King:
"Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so, we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can't ride you unless your back is bent."
If you are an American, or live in another truly democratic country, I beg of you. Don't take your freedom for granted. Vote. Let your voice be heard. For if you don't, we might end up in just the situation my friends are in!
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